Like it or not, your child will get involved in disagreements with other children or teachers in school.
Disagreements may occur simply because there are misunderstandings between people, the individuals involved don’t know each other, someone has something that another wants, someone wants another to perform a task that the other doesn’t want to do, etc.
When a disagreement arises in school,there are two possible results: a) a fight could occur between the disagreeing parties or b) the parties are able to talk and settle the dispute. When one embarks in the second, then he or she is involved in a negotiation.
How to negotiate is something that has been studied by conflict managers and psychologists for many, many years. They have learned by studying history and the way people behave in negotiations the strategies necessary to get conflicting parties to talk to resolve their disputes. These strategies are not limited to adults. Children can also use them. Here are 10 negotiation strategies your child can use to avoid fights or major disagreements that can distract him or her from achieving success in school.
1) Fight or Flight
When confronted with a disagreement or conflict, a child’s initial reaction is either to fight or walk away. Walking away may be considered a respectable thing to do. It definitely is better than fighting. However, the dispute is not resolved and can come up time and time again when your child is confronted with the other child who holds the grudge. It is better for both children — a win-win result — if the two are able to talk out their disagreement and resolve it. Who knows, a kid who may appear to be belligerent toward your son could become a friend as a result of negotiations. This removes a major distraction from your boy’s life and ensures for him success in school as well as student success.
2) Agree on The Small Things First
The reason why one person has a disagreement or conflict with another can be complicating. So your child may not be able to settle the entire reason for the dispute. So settle the part of the dispute that can be settled and live with the agreement for awhile so that your son understands that his adversary can be trusted. Then settle the next reason for the disagreement and so on until the conflict no longer exists. The result of this student success may lead to two adversaries becoming friends. It will also make the environment a lot more comfortable for your child to achieve success in school.